If I were answering this question two days ago, I’d say being nice doesn’t necessarily need to be dangerous. But I had an epiphany that made me reflect on the BS I’ve gotten just for the sake of being “nice” last night that made me cry myself to sleep. It makes me wonder if I have jerk and asshole magnet because 80% of people I’m acquainted with are insensitive jerks.
You are always around for their whimsical needs, suddenly you’re the less important one. When you complain, it makes them angry and they somehow make you feel guilty.
You share an idea with someone, they steal it and make it their own and tell people it was solely from their empty thinking faculty and suddenly, you’re the copy cat,
You try to cheer someone up or, you call them cute or dear, genuinely ask about how they are doing, they first start giving you BS, the next thing you hear he told his friends is “she is pushing herself hard at me, she is too much to handle”. (self conceited insensitive narcissistic asshole). This one is very recent.
And just so so much more annoying things you get from nice to people that if I had magical powers, thick creeping vines would be squeezing oxygen right out of them and probably their misery and cry for help would make me smile and feel better.
Does all these stop me from being nice to people? No. In fact, it all made me realize how much we really need nice people in this world. And how much scum bags we have in this world and they shouldn’t win.
if you mean being nice like putting others first before yourself,i used to be like that till my friends turned their backs against me,i always volunteered to do things for them and at a point they almost took it as my priority,I backed out and they changed totally.If we want to be more kind and giving, we actually need to be a little LESS “nice.